In all our vast system of educational, religious and social institutions, there is often no place for people to learn about and explore their own ideas about what they expect from love, marriage, sex and intimacy. They often rush into marriage with unrealistic expectations without thinking through what they really want in a mate and what they will offer in exchange. Pre-marital therapy offers the opportunity to explore these issues, to ask questions about themselves and their mate, and lay the groundwork that will ensure a happy life together. Becoming clear on expectations will ultimately help couples establish healthy lines of communication. Pre-marital therapy is appropriate for both first and subsequent marriages and blended families.